What Every Parent, Teacher and Kid Needs to Know About Ending the Cycle of Fear
by Carrie Goldman
HarperOne; August 14, 2012
From the inside flap:
Carrie Goldman became an unexpected voice for the antibullying movement after her blog post about her daughter Katie’s bullying experience went viral and an online community of support generated international attention. In Bullied, Goldman brings together the expertise of leading authorities with the candid accounts of families dealing firsthand with peer victimization to present proven strategies and concrete tools for teaching children how to speak up and carry themselves with confidence; call each other out on cruelty; resolve conflict; cope with teasing, taunting, physical abuse, and cyberbullying; and be smart consumers of technology and media. As a mother, she calls on us all–families, schools, communities, retailers, celebrities, and media–to fiercely examine our own stereotypes and embrace our joint responsibility for creating a culture of acceptance and respect.
For parents, educators, and anyone still wrestling with past experiences of victimization and fear, Bullied is an eye-opening, prescriptive, and ultimately uplifting guide to raising diverse, empathetic, tolerant kids in a caring and safe world.
In the Introduction to Bullied, Dorothy Espelage (Ph.D. and Professor at the University of Illinois, Urbana-Champaign) laments that after almost twenty years of research on bullying and prevention, we still have not made enough progress in creating safe schools and preventing suicide among children. Espelage points out that although the research has been extensive, there is a major lack of communication between researchers, practitioners, and parents–research reports tend to be shared among the scholars that write them, and are not translated into solutions or made available to the people who need to use them in schools. The books that are written by teachers, parents, and community members tend to ignore the years of research that has been done by psychologists.
When Goldman’s blog post about her daughter being bullied for her love of Star Wars went viral, she decided to talk to everyone she possibly could about bullying and prevention–researchers, teachers, and parents–in order to bring the two worlds together and provide a book that combines recent research findings and solutions that can be implemented at home and in schools.
Goldman did a fantastic job. Bullied is accessible, interesting, and provides a wealth of information about bullying and prevention. It includes chapters highlighting the kids who are at the highest risk for being bullied and how we can change that as a society; there are chapters on intervention, prevention, and reconciliation; and at the back of the book there are all kinds of resources for further reading (online and off), including a list of books for kids to read (sorted by age group). There are also numerous personal stories from people who have bullied and from people who have been bullied scattered throughout the book.
I highly recommend Bullied to anyone who has children or to anyone who works with children. It is well written, insightful, and very informative.
(To learn more about Carrie Goldman, please visit her author website where you will also find a link to her personal blog.)
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